So many of us know ourselves only from our limited experiences in familiar situations that involve rules, laws, and pressures from what society considers as "normal". Since kids we have everything organized: we go to school, we have to study, we go on planned vacations. We don't have the time to think and to realize what we really are passionate about. Everything is decided for us. Then growing up we start to work and to pay the bills and the taxes, day in and year out. So we are part of the organized system that makes us leaving in a comfort zone. But what happens when we are exposed to totally new and unfamiliar settings where our habits don’t suffice? When we start a new job, when we move to a new country, when we radically change our habitat. The old we were used to might not work as expected when the ground rules change.
So what should we do? How should we act?
Being broken, losing friends and having sleepless nights can be tough when young and inexperienced. But that is how progress is made. That is how we learn. That is how we discover our true potential and our real desires.
One of my favourite motivational bits of advice are the following words of Charles Bukowski:

“If you're going to try, go all the way. Otherwise, don't even start. This could mean losing girlfriends, wives, relatives and maybe even your mind. It could mean not eating for three or four days. It could mean freezing on a park bench. It could mean jail. It could mean derision. It could mean isolation. Isolation is the gift. All the others are a test of your endurance, of how much you really want to do it. And, you'll do it, despite rejection and the worst odds. And it will be better than anything else you can imagine. If you're going to try, go all the way. There is no other feeling like that. You will be alone with the gods, and the nights will flame with fire. You will ride life straight to perfect laughter. It's the only good fight there is.”

Imagine that people are like books, from a young age, we start this reading process and during our lives we process hundreds or thousands of books.
sometimes you can read a book (a person) in a month, sometimes two, sometimes in years and some books are never meant to be understood. that's perfectly fine, as in the world there are so so so many types of books so everyone can find "the one".
how many books does each of us store on the heart's shelf? we do occasionally blow off the dust from them but those books are meant to stay memories.
do you remember the first book you've read? now after years, you may probably understand the real meaning it holds.
but it's late, the past is past it can't be changed. People come and go from our lives, we don't have to hold them, but only to learn and let them go.
in life, nothing is superficial neither accidental so never underestimate the power of reading, either it's a magazine or a scientific book the purpose is to acquire the ability to read between the lines and to find the perfect book for every stage of your life.

Darkness, pain, insecurity, struggle.. the life doesn't go always as we wish or plan. Even if we try to predict, to smooth it, our story is always about a mix of feelings, events and emotions.

Living in a digital era doesn't help. We easily got used to having everything quick. And if having quick answers to our questions it's ok, pretending quick friendships, quick love, quick relations it's not. Beautiful things deserve time and hard work. The lack of patience (the illness of our generation), dedication and persistence can lead to depression, darkness, low-quality love and friendships.

It's important to keep going, even when you think that is the end. In the same way, muscles first, have to be damaged and repaired to become stronger you need be broken and then to build yourself back up in order to feel and understand your personal power.

Be patient, keep your integrity, your reputation, your life mission. Keep being motivated no matter what your laziness, your fears or the "comfort zone" version of yourself says.

PS. last but not least, passing through life, never lose the spark in your eyes - the only thing that doesn't age.

There is nothing wrong with being a dreamer, as long as your dreams make you happier, make you an achiever, make you grow and feel better. As long as your own dreams don't make you a prisoner of an imaginary world.

Scrolling the feeds of social media we see so many perfect pictures, perfect couples, perfect bodies, perfect love, perfect life... we start doubting about our own lives... we start dreaming about something that looks ideal... something that makes you think "I'm doing it all wrong". There is nothing worse than doubting of your own life because you are the creator of your it and it's a product of your own choices.

We are surrounded by "tools" (favorite things that make us happy: friends, hobbies, activities..) but instead of using them we dream, about something far in time and space.

One of my favorite authors Dale Carnegie said: "We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon-instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today".
How true. We are often blind because we focus on the wrong things, on the wrong life standards. Influenced by other we tend to put off living and dream of "perfection" , meanwhile, the life passes, we age, and we "the roses of our garden" because of lack of attention, die.

We procrastinate. We are all waiting for something. Saying it's too early or too late, too young, too old, too ugly, too fat, too... excuses, excuses every day, every time we are in front of something we really want, we stop. We understand that life doesn't end now, we can do it tomorrow, and like this every day. A continuous cycle of waiting and procrastinating that we call life.
We always want to be the opposite of who we are in order to achieve something, but the weird thing about these excuses is that when we get there, we say that we should have acted when we were in the previous state.

One of the phrases I've personally used and I've heard so many times while traveling is "see you again". Just because we think that this last time is not going to be the last. We do not truly live in that moment, we don't say the words we want, we don't act as we really feel.
Keeping in mind the only thing we actually possess: the present, and quitting on waiting for a better time, is the best thing you can do for your life.
Because in the end it's better to die when you want to live than to live until you want to die.